Benching: What is it? Easily explained

Benching is an alleged trend that occurs in dating. However, only a few know what exactly is behind it. Here we explain exactly what Benching looks like.

Benching - a nasty dating trend

Anyone who uses single exchanges may face benching sooner or later.

• The term "benching" is derived from the English word "bench". That means sending someone to the reserve bank.
• Affected people will be put on the reserve bank by your dating partner - or have someone braise themselves. Not a new phenomenon - it has been around since singles began to get to know each other. In the past, people simply said "keep warm".
• Benching is very easy to recognize. After the first date, "victims" only receive sporadically short messages from their counterpart. Just enough to keep him or her going.
• However, they are non-binding and hold you back. The question "How are you" is usually followed by a brief explanation of why you haven't received a message for so long. But that's about it.
• No longer chatting, least of all the question of another date - if that is the case, you will just be kept warm. The next contact then follows after days or weeks.
• It is easy to explain why someone does this: if you want to keep all options open, benching is a way, albeit a common one. You have someone behind you who you can fall back on. In the meantime, keep looking around for potential partners - there could be something better.

What to do as a benching victim

• The best and easiest way to respond to benching is by ghosting.
• Stop replying to these trivial and uninterested messages. As a benching victim, you save yourself a disappointment.
• It becomes easier if you block the other party. Then don't be tempted to answer again at a weak moment.

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